tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post1788685506579543955..comments2023-10-25T05:54:21.098-04:00Comments on Guess Who's Coming To Dinner: A Tale Of Two Weddings....G6http://www.blogger.com/profile/15932781801654313054noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-65390710567780870962010-11-09T16:47:44.328-05:002010-11-09T16:47:44.328-05:00Manners, social grace... ah, the things of a lost ...Manners, social grace... ah, the things of a lost world.Yehudahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-22827991609944703632010-11-09T15:28:47.400-05:002010-11-09T15:28:47.400-05:00I'm curious if all those who think bringing a ...I'm curious if all those who think bringing a sefer is rude- do not check their blackberries, write emails,text or make/take phone calls while sitting at the table or waiting for the chupa or at the chupa.<br /><br />I'm not saying it's not rude, but let's just make sure those screaming RUDE! are always careful of personal distractions during social situations, and not just a knee jerk reaction to...gasp...a sefer!FBBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14505082368362325039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-47334921690659698072010-11-09T11:54:57.684-05:002010-11-09T11:54:57.684-05:00I don't understand what's so terrible abou...I don't understand what's so terrible about bringing a sefer. Do you know how much you can learn during the gap between badeken and chuppah or during the dancing if you're not interested in participating? I'm no fanatic, but some of us feel that sitting and staring for 30 minutes or small talk with strangers is really a waste of time and we would rather spend that time with a sefer. Of course, one shouldn't learn during the "ceremony" and other inappropriate times and I think it is rude to carry a large sefer. I stick to pocket-sized volumes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-62845842547859385412010-11-09T02:11:47.982-05:002010-11-09T02:11:47.982-05:00BLD-
Do you want to be my Chavrusa?BLD-<br /><br />Do you want to be my Chavrusa?Yekke Wannabenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-48538467087598259622010-11-08T16:46:21.170-05:002010-11-08T16:46:21.170-05:00First off, men generally don't appreciate cent...First off, men generally don't appreciate centerpieces unless you can fiddle with them or they're like Lazy Susans and make food access better. Secondly, is it really rude to bring a small sefer to a chasunah for some of those interminable break periods? I feel like as long as you put it away when "stuff's happening" it's okay. I could be wrong. Thirdly, it's hard to do seating at a wedding. For most guests being specific and not "mirror-image" is difficult and time-consuming. Lastly, do women really want fancy large pull apart Challah and the like just so that they can talk about how they "really shouldn't" be doing this and how the food will just have to be a "wedding exception?" :)<br />Just kidding. Sort of.Random German Wordsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-87402840299453572402010-11-08T15:39:51.185-05:002010-11-08T15:39:51.185-05:00Another anecdote for why many of us prefer mixed s...Another anecdote for why many of us prefer mixed seating.WAdsworth3noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-23096148938599069322010-11-08T15:25:49.500-05:002010-11-08T15:25:49.500-05:00I don't know a whole lot of men who care about...I don't know a whole lot of men who care about the centerpieces. However, I agree that they do care with whom they are seated. <br />BLD, I can think of nothing ruder than bringing a sefer. yuck.anonymous separate seating haternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-26838067651925312002010-11-08T14:41:27.073-05:002010-11-08T14:41:27.073-05:00BLD,
I hope you're joking. Bringing a book -...BLD,<br /><br />I hope you're joking. Bringing a book -- any kind of book -- to a wedding is one of the most rude things you can do. If you actually imbibed the message of sefarim's content, you would know that.Yehudahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-72216057195438183852010-11-08T14:40:24.599-05:002010-11-08T14:40:24.599-05:00My husband refuses to go to weddings with seperate...My husband refuses to go to weddings with seperate seating if he is not going to know people on the men's side.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-89146320551089312742010-11-08T13:24:33.496-05:002010-11-08T13:24:33.496-05:00That's why the mechitza is there -- so you can...That's why the mechitza is there -- so you can't see that the food is better on the other side. Around here, the men get chulent and kugel at a kiddush. Women get salads and good cakes. Its Unfair!Stuarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05931489662434703403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8360283326769930021.post-56907987899180352712010-11-08T06:34:35.276-05:002010-11-08T06:34:35.276-05:00Bring a sefer next time.Bring a sefer next time.BLDnoreply@blogger.com